Sometimes people tell me that they have been trying to honor their intuition, doing what feels true to them, and yet nothing seems to be working. The money isn’t flowing. The contacts aren’t being made. Everything seems hard.
So, they are understandably upset. I totally get this. I’ve been there. Multiple times.
Of course, I don’t know for sure what is going on for you, but I have a few guesses. One is that sometimes you jump at the wrong time. Sometimes you’re pretty sure that you’ve figured out your purpose, and you’re going for it. But then a funny thing happens. In the doing of it, you realize that whatever it is you’ve decided isn’t quite right. You’re not at the end of your journey – yet. And if you don’t realize it yourself, sometimes, in order to help you understand that you’re not in the right place, the Universe (or you) starts dismantling your current situation. You get laid off. Your business tanks. You get the picture.
That’s theory number one. Now here’s theory number two, which I think applies more broadly.
Sometimes you figure out your purpose or honestly follow your intuition and take a risk, but it just doesn’t work. And it’s not that you’re not on the right track or are perhaps exactly where you need to be. It might be that you are the one who is orchestrating your own failure.
It seems fairly undeniable to me that we are operating on a few levels. There is your conscious self, your unconscious self, and, if you buy it, your soul level. The stinker of the thing is that sometimes all of these levels don’t have the same agenda. We may consciously say we want something to happen, our soul may be rooting for us, but our unconscious has other ideas.
Our unconscious is host to all of the messages that we have received from the beginning of, well, us. Everything our parents every said to us. Every commercial. Every comment every teacher we ever had made on every paper we ever wrote or drew. If you have ever felt bad about yourself or guilty about something you’ve done, it’s in there. Now your personality plays a big part in how you process all of these things, and hopefully for every negative thing you’ve ever experienced, you’ve also experienced two positive things.
But some of us haven’t.
If you are genuinely following your heart and your intuition and you keep falling short, consider that another part of you may have a conflicting agenda. This is a stinker of a problem, but it is one that you can reverse. You were born into certain circumstances, at a particular time and place, and that world of yours told you what to believe about the world and how about you should work and who you are.
Your world wrote the introduction to your story, but you do get to decide how it ends. You do get to decide what you believe about how the world is going to work – for you. Everyone else is engaged in their own stories; don’t let them distract you from being the hero of your own.
The rewiring of your brain is a process, of course, but you can challenge your thinking every day. Every time you have a defeatist thought, you simply remind yourself that that is part of an old story that was written for you by people who were probably having trouble loving themselves. Every time you say the old standby “It works out for everyone but me” you counter that thought with “But that’s ridiculous. I did not come here to fail.”
It’s absolutely your right to succeed. It’s absolutely your right to pen a new story for yourself. And it’s absolutely your destiny to follow your intuition to whatever glorious conclusion you can imagine.